Define Success on Your Own Terms

Success, like happiness, is an individual pursuit.

Many people are taught that success equals making a lot of money. For example, you may never have heard your parents speak about “success”, but it is possible that you were encouraged to think about becoming a lawyer or a doctor (or a professional athlete or actor) long before you were old enough to know what you were really even good at?

Why do you think that is? The prominence associated with these career paths may only be part of the reasons that children are subtly pushed in their direction.

But in many cases, it’s money that the world’s children are being taught to gain before anything else. Even when a young person demonstrates pleasure or promise in an area of pursuit which may be art, self-employment and other “unproven” paths to financial well-being, parents often lead their children away from happiness — and toward income.

The result of this kind of money-first thinking is societies of people who are unhappy, depressed or underachieving because they are stuck in a career or lifestyle they hate because they are pursuing a line of work which is likely not what they were born to do.

While being stable or even very well off financially is often the result of great determination and hard work, it is not the only true measure of success. There is likely to be little satisfaction from being wealthy if you do not also enjoy what you do to create your riches.

Of course, if you are struggling to make ends meet, it is only natural to want a better life for yourself and your family. But when your happiness and even the approval you feel toward your children is motivated largely by their wealth or material possessions, it may be worth re-assessing your definition of success to make room for other possibilities.

That said, it is impossible to become successful by just doing enough to get by. Anyone can be average. If your aim is to be successful, you must cultivate a burning desire to achieve larger than self goals which compel you to wake up early and stay up late pursuing your highest vision until you have achieved it. No matter what obstacles present themselves along the way to your success (and they will), you must always keep pushing yourself forward and denying the apathy virus to make it’s claim on your mind and heart.

A burning desire for success combined with relentless action toward your goals is ultimately all the motivation you need to unlock the full potential of who you are. As you act in this very special and certain way, new resources and inspiration will awaken from within you that can only be unlocked by the passionate pursuit of excellence in your chosen field. It is impossible to have this kind of drive and motivation if you do not truly love what you do and if you are not confident enough to think you are able to do it well.

This is why it is necessary for you to define success on your own terms. Which achievements do you truly believe are worth pursuing? Which accomplishments do you yearn to share with your children and grandchildren?

When you tap into the emotional drivers of your soul and pursue your dreams with fervor, success will no longer be something that you are searching for. Rather, success will be a lifelong friend who greets you with a smile in the morning light, walks beside you hand-in-hand throughout every waking day, and whispers her stories of glory, pride and achievement into your ears at night as you drift into the world of dreams. Remember…